|Out for a walk this morning.|
Anya is depressed. She sleeps about 16 hours a day and there is no waking her from this stupor. She wants to deal with waking life in very short bursts that must be occupied with busy-ness or else she retreats into a silent prison she will not let us in, or she simply waltzes out the door to get away from the sound of her own thoughts. I'm sure she is battling insomnia as well. I know it's not just depression. But her obvious distaste for being awake can't just be a teenager's penchant for pillow-time. When awake, she has this hungry need for phone, computer, tv, -- anything to distract her. She does not want to talk. She wants to retreat from any human contact. It's so heart-breaking to watch her little sister try to break through this wall. She has such hope.
Today was to be a 'family' day. We had plans to walk the city and take photos, and simply enjoy the 'nice' weather before it gets rainy and even colder. We tried to wake her up. I mean really tried. We used all the measures we could think of, but there was just no getting her out of that bed. Nastia and I finally went off alone. We met Svetlana to look at the apartments to the south of the theatre. We travelled several bus stops on a sad soviet-era bus covered in gray dirt, filled with gray faced people who just stared at us. Svetlana is like a gigantic light in this place. She is so kind, open, sweet and big-hearted that she stands out like a lighthouse amidst the gray fog of ambivalence and resignation.
We arrived at the apartment only to find the agent once again not there. A call was made, a tired voice answered. We were told once again that there has been a mistake and we must come at a different time. Have I mentioned this is the third time she has stood us up? Such is Russia.
We travelled back to the center, parting ways with Svetlana at the bus stop and travelling on our own back to the drama theatre, the relative heart of the city. Nastia prided herself with being 'in charge'.
|The bookstore in Kemerovo.|
Did she like America? yes. Did she miss Russia? Sometimes? Could she speak English? Yes, very well. Why was she back in Russia? To visit her sister. And then began the complicated explanation of why her sister was here and she in America. She didn't flinch. She seemed proud to share. I was in awe.
There are many gifts like this in being here. These little moments are the ones I live for. It's lonely here, and depressing, but like my friend Laurie reminded me, we are here to share our light. I need to remember that. My daughter is learning that faster than I am. God bless her.
I look forward to tomorrow's trek to the orphanage. I know the joy I will find there, and I'm craving it. I may not be able to blog from there, but I will try. Keep us in your prayers.