Anyway, I know I have enough friends reading this that I don't have to post a response myself just now. My reder-friends can explain things to you, "Anonymous' while I go comfort my still-grieving daughter. But I must say this: You have no idea what you are talking about. I did not host with the expectation of falling in love and no - sorry - there were no couples waiting to host her - if I didn't host her, she would not have come this year. I was the last resort, and I did so because something about her profile grabbed at my heart - I could at least advocate for her, even if I wasn't eligible to adopt her. I could also give her a beautiful, magical, unforgettable summer in a family - loads better than spending it at an orphanage, wouldn't you think, Anonymous?
D was described by the hosting organization as being a handful to begin with. Not many families go out of there way to host a 'handful.' I knew that my experience with RAD and PTSD might be a good thing for D, given her bio. My daughter and I gave her the experience of a lifetime...five weeks of unconditional love. She will be stronger for it. I know that in my heart.
As for your suggestion of 'moving on'...i'm sorry, are you human? have you ever suffered a loss in your life?. Anyone who would write something that heartless when we are grieving is not someone who will hear what I have to say anyway. Your heart is closed, it seems to me. I can only guess that there must be some deep, unresolved hurt in your life for you to be so hurtful to someone you do not even know. (But in case you do feel some remorse, I want to let you know I forgive you. I've lashed out at people for no reason before, too. We all do it.)
To my friends, here is the comment that broke my heart tonight: