‘What does love look like? It has the hands to help others. It has the feet to hasten to the poor and needy. It has eyes to see misery and want. It has the ears to hear the sighs and sorrows of men …… That is what love looks like.’ - St. Augustine

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Your Prayers Are Needed

Things are only getting worse for N and her family. Please, please pray. I have never in my life heard a life story as horrific as hers, and I have heard more than my share of terrible childhoods in my past work with child victims of sex abuse. N needs more help than J or I can give her, and more help than DSS and the Domestic Abuse advocacy group is willing to give her. She needs deep heartfelt prayers, in the worst way. I know some of you are not the praying kind, and I certainly respect that. But for any of you who pray daily or even once in a blue moon, I BEG you to hold this woman up in your prayers.

I cannot go into much detail, but her husband has been laying some major traps for her these past two days. He is far smarter than I thought and he has been using the police and DSS to his advantage. He has the twins so terrified, they are lying to protect him. He has made verbal threats against her life, and against the people who shared his "business" with DSS ( me and J.) He vows he will find out who we are.

N was inconsolable tonight. She wept and wept and cried " I just want God take me now. Please God take me." Everytime a car drove by, she froze in terror. She still refuses to get a restraining order because she will have to tell the court what her husband has done to her. She said " God do what He want with me. If God want me live and stay in this country, He do it. If He want me die or go back to Haiti, He do it."

Pray for enough of her fear to be lifted that she can think straight. Pray that she be protected from her husband. Pray that she accept the help she is being offered. Pray that she feel the love of God embracing her. Pray that her children be protected through all of this. Pray that these stupidly indifferent and careless authorities DO something. Please, please pray.


  1. Consider it done!

  2. Hi. I found your blog through following a comment you left at Smiles & Trials. I was impressed with what you had to say and from what I've read so far, I am even more impressed with your courage. So many people are willing to let things happen around them. I think you are definitely making changes in the world even if you don't get your dishes done. I prayed for N and her children and the twins. I prayed that God would take them out of reach of the devil and hold them close to him. I also prayed for yours and J's safety. Blessings to you.

  3. Lisa & Kelley, Thank you! I'm beside myself with worry today. Im TRYING TRYING TRYING to hand it over to God, but my fear keeps getting in the way! I'm so glad to know others are praying :) Huge thanks...

  4. keri -- please call me today. i want to make sure you are okay. my prayers for Momma and kids are lifted, and i'm also praying for your safety. I had feared his anger would head your way, and i pray for the firewalls of the spirit to be a boundary around you and J to thwart him.

    sometimes, you do every every everything you can... and it still isn't fixed. sometimes, it isn't our will that we need realized. sometimes it doesn't look good, but in the longer farther run, perhaps things work out ... and the right here and now looks awful close and scary.

    please -- do what you can, but do not let it consume you. you have done so much... and if she cannot or will not commit to a restraining order, there isn't much more you CAN do.

    it truly is in the hands of God. but it is also in her hands. we fulfill our own destinies.

  5. Anonymous10:05 PM

    Please..You are putting yourelf and your daughter in grave danger by inserting yourself in this womans life.For your daughters sake remove yourself from this situation ASAP! Your daughters safety is your priority..

  6. Anonymous, I am only posting your comment so you may see my answer. As a rule, I do not post anonymous comments. However, as you left no other way of contacting you, here is my answer to your comment:

    I will NEVER ever let fear stand in the way of helping others. I'm not stupid. I have many family members and friends who spent their lives in law enforcement (including my dad.) I know what is safe and what is not. But to deny this woman help and friendship simply because her husband is making verbal threats is cowardly and selfish to me. You are entitled to choose otherwise, but please do not post your fears on my blog. If I wrote a post asking for opinions on the matter, would understand your comment a little more. But I didnt ask for anyone's opinion on the matter and I never will. I asked for PRAYERS, and only from those who would choose to offer them.
    I live my life according to my personal beliefs and I happen to think that caring for another human being, however uncomfortable or scary it might be, is the highest good. My daughter is safe, thank you, and she is learning incredible life lessons thru this experience, lessons about doing unto others, about caring for those less fortunate, about true love and compassion, and about how WE EACH can make a difference in this world, if we just STEP PAST OUR FEARS and do the right thing. I am sorry our situation scares you. It does NOT scare me, or my daughter. What lesson would she learn from seeing her mother walk away from a situation God had laid in her lap - A chance to really help someone? Not the lesson I would have her learn. I ask God to give me chances to help others, and when He gives me these chances, I will embrace them and trust HIM. Perfect Love casts out fear. I choose Love over Fear.


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