‘What does love look like? It has the hands to help others. It has the feet to hasten to the poor and needy. It has eyes to see misery and want. It has the ears to hear the sighs and sorrows of men …… That is what love looks like.’ - St. Augustine

Sunday, July 11, 2010

God Grant Me The Grace To...

...accept the things I cannot change. 

I cannot change the fact that Ukraine does not allow single parent adoptions anymore. I can only pray and hope the hearts of those in positions of power will learn to put the children first. Unlikely, but still -- miracles occur everyday.

Each night I have a long conversation with God about what I am grateful for and also what I need from Him. Lately the 'need' list is getting heftier. I need Him to grant me the grace to let D go in a few weeks. I honestly do not know how I will do it. The four-plus year Anya saga makes it difficult for me to trust in a positive outcome, but I'm trying. 

I want God to help me accept that D may not be my child. Even though she is a perfect fit. Even though she tells us everyday that she wants us. Even though she threatens to run away and come find us when she has to return to Ukraine. Even though I know in my heart that D would truly thrive with us. Please, God, please remind me that you have a much better vantage point than I. You know best what is best for this little girl. Help me to think like you. 

This little girl -- this frustrating, irascible, demanding, tantrum-loving, independent, fiery, sometimes impossible, always amazing little girl --has captured our hearts, and holds them tight in her little fists. I want the world for her. I want her to have EVERY SINGLE thing she needs, in spades.

God grant me the Grace to accept the things I cannot change.



  1. May God bless you all with peace and wisdom and insight into his plan. Ukrainian adoptions are not for the faint of heart, that is for sure. I, too, pray that it someday WILL be about the kids and these precious little souls will be recognized and treated as valuable and worthwhile human beings.

  2. Anonymous11:18 PM

    As a single mama, I saw your first few pictures of Dasha and thought !!! what if !!! How precious!!!! Why the rules!!!

    I will be praying for a path, a window, a miracle, for you, Nastia, Anya, and Dasha....

    If you can think of anything I could do to help... please don't hestiate to ask.

    Can you host her again next summer? Find an adoptive family in your neighborhood? (I am sure you have been through this list of possiblities already!)
    Prayers & hugs to ya'll!

  3. Anonymous3:00 AM

    Arrrrgh, yeah that story with Ukraine is really frustrating!! I really hope that changes! If only there was some other, out-of-the-box-thinking way to get her out of there. So, your brothers who are married haven't been thinking of adopting yet? LOL If only these things were simpler...

  4. God bless you! Everything will find it's way. It may not be our way, but it will all make sense one day. The time Dasha has spent with you I am sure has taught her a lot about family and love.

  5. I can't recall if you said Dasha was available for adoption...

    Did you think of hosting a child from Russia or Latvia, where single parents are OK? i.e Why did you choose Dasha?


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