tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post3671769144812592390..comments2023-05-14T08:06:41.594-05:00Comments on Creating My Own Little Nirvana: What I've been Meaning to Say Is....Kerihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04886116438383281567noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-79184387689013870132012-02-05T13:32:24.147-05:002012-02-05T13:32:24.147-05:00Oh, as far as menopause goes. It is not as embarr...Oh, as far as menopause goes. It is not as embarrassing to write about on someone else's blog. Mine happened in ONE FELL SWOOP. No symptoms, no irregular periods, nothing. Just one big sudden, first-time-ever PANIC ATTACK. I spent a week absolutely paralyzed by fear, unable to eat, barely able to move and function. Finally, crawled into a psychiatrist and got drugs for the panic. Realized later that I never had another period. So - got that over with in an interesting way. I've even regretted I'm not still in theater- a career where all experiences are valuable.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12623179886908222942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-43417848319854893052012-02-05T13:28:37.379-05:002012-02-05T13:28:37.379-05:00See.... All these people comment, and I just lose...See.... All these people comment, and I just lose heart. It's no fun commenting on a blog when there are a zillion other comments....but I will because you are SO SILLY. You are one of the best writers I know, with the BEST BLOG. You must know that.<br /><br />Work joy. Mine is gone since the merger. I have the work, but not the joy. I have to be happy for that, by itself, I guess. Because money does matter. Those who say it doesn't have it.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12623179886908222942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-53273442706179219532012-02-05T10:04:27.099-05:002012-02-05T10:04:27.099-05:00Hi Keri! When I see you've posted, I say &quo...Hi Keri! When I see you've posted, I say "OH YAY" to my computer. When I can't comment on what you've posted because if my stupid Blogger or whatever it is, I say other things to my computer I can't put in this comment. I am the firstborn of a sailor, so use your imagination. If you listen carefully, you may be able to hear some of it over the air across three states when I try to post this comment. Yup. PeriM lives here too. Made for fun times yesterday when I was the oppositional and defiant one in the household (and both of us being ODD at the same time; well that's just a delightful picture, isn't it?) Love your blog, Keri.matryoshkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04159644735944561441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-10381064333226209182012-02-04T22:54:14.472-05:002012-02-04T22:54:14.472-05:00PLEASE dont stop writing. You are a unique adoptio...PLEASE dont stop writing. You are a unique adoption writer. I haven't found anyone else like you out there. I also read several other "adoption blogs" but yours is very refreshing. You are honest about the good and the bad of adoption. You are not a traditional Christian and you're honest about it. I really like hearing what you have to say. We are here, hanging on your every word :)Carmen O.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02931290672385490614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-24161013057645954642012-02-04T12:26:11.607-05:002012-02-04T12:26:11.607-05:00I've been in just about the same place. I had...I've been in just about the same place. I had a full hysterectomy last year so I'm not peri-menopausal. I am forced menopausal. The HRT, even in super low doses throws me in to massive depression. Don't miss the old bitty, but trying to balance the hormones now is a chore. And my favorite comeback, especially when they tell me the kid who just graphically described how he plans to kill me is "so cute", I very dramatically thank them for offering to babysit for a week so my husband and I can take a much needed vacation. Funny thing...no takers and no vacation...and conversations end abruptly!Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08444891084585965661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-4111155020473981692012-02-04T09:20:14.185-05:002012-02-04T09:20:14.185-05:00Oh gawd, I just spend a week not eating, sweating ...Oh gawd, I just spend a week not eating, sweating my bed into a lake, being hot and cold, being mind-numbingly tired - and that's just this week. I've been on a swing with peri for a while now. And I think, "if this is peri, should I kill myself before it's full-blown Meno, or just hope I lose my mind enough I don't notice when that crap starts?"<br /><br />So, yeah...<br /><br />I want to want to write, too. Remember all my letters to my little guy? Well, I've not written one in over a year. I can't seem to get myself started. I think of it and then decide I have nothing decent to say, or relate, no wisdom to impart...and I walk away, again. But, years from now, it may be my boy won't care if I don't write a deeply moving letter full or wisdom or stories from his life. Any letter will be precious. So I should just do it. I love reading your blog, you are always right next to me when I read it, so most clearly and definitively "you" is every post. I can see and hear you when I read, and since I don't get out to see people...it's like a visit for me!<br /><br />I've not had work joy for about seven years now. More than one bout of unemployment. I know it can be a soul-killer. I wish I had something positive to say, but it really just kind of stinks. I found routine pretty important during those times so I didn't just sit around doing nothing. The bonus was all the time I had for more books! One year I went out and took a low-paying retail job. It was totally different from anything I'd done since I was 16 years old or so, but it was different enough to keep me busy and show me a different perspective. These days, I wish I could go grocery cashier just for one day a week as something completely different to do! LOVE YOU.Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14618958668181174107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-86821966284664065172012-02-03T19:54:11.721-05:002012-02-03T19:54:11.721-05:00Wow! Thanks everybody! It was soo cool to find so ...Wow! Thanks everybody! It was soo cool to find so many comments waiting to be posted! Renewed my spirit!Kerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04886116438383281567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-11356669243671315232012-02-03T19:41:55.814-05:002012-02-03T19:41:55.814-05:00My best reply, when asked if she's my real dau...My best reply, when asked if she's my real daughter, is, "She's not imaginary." This, if she's standing right there, is rephrased as, "Oh course she's my real daughter! She's not imaginary. She's right there. See? Real."<br /><br />Dreading pm and I bet it's coming soon. I already forget...what was I saying? ;><br /><br />First-time unemployed here. No drama-outlet for...a year now. <br />That. is. not. good. for. kate.<br /><br />Tell us about your artist! And, I hope the death obsession (which I'm sure Anya being in Russia without you doesn't help) passes soon.<br /><br />Hang in there! Write about nothing. Goodness knows I do. OFTEN.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01981791168464858869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-78593160405772240432012-02-03T12:35:03.836-05:002012-02-03T12:35:03.836-05:00I'm sorry to hear that you're still having...I'm sorry to hear that you're still having no luck with the job situation. Unemployment sucks rocks!<br /><br />Anyway, I LOVE reading your blog posts! You're one of the first ones I read on my reader! I don't often comment because either someone has already said what I was going to, one of kids is causing a disaster, or I simply can't think of anything to say. But I do always read!<br /><br />You, Nastia, Anya and little D (your soon-to-be-son) are always in my prayers. Have a great weekend!Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03204590757920247893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-81810828010008189042012-02-03T12:29:53.403-05:002012-02-03T12:29:53.403-05:00Keri, your post did all the things you wished it w...Keri, your post did all the things you wished it would--it was witty, personal, insightful, and a refreshing dose of you. : ) I too enjoy your blogging, and only mind when you don't blog if I feel like all is well with you, so I have been worried about you this season. Thank you for sharing where you are, and I am now REALLY sure I am pre-pre-menopausal, and your list explains a LOT and I JUST turned 40 this past fall. Sigh. So, whatever gripes you post on that front will be read like a users-manual by me. ; ) But of course my favorite posts of your are those in which you meet the Living God in Person, in some aspect of your life where you least expected Him. So, THAT is what I will be waiting and praying for, for you. <br /><br />much love from the other coast, <br /><br />blessedBlessedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09079902364989480862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-37675098897822993492012-02-03T11:48:59.532-05:002012-02-03T11:48:59.532-05:00Hi Keri. I look forward to every post you write. I...Hi Keri. I look forward to every post you write. I remember when I "found" you. I was engaged from the first moment and I've learned so much from you that has helped me not be one of "those" adoption commenters and it's helped me be a better friend/listener/comforter to all the trauma mamas I'm so blessed to have in my life. You are amazing! When I hit PM I'll be calling you :) Love to you. I'm so sorry you are having to go through unemployment.Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12436940857518345012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-15690847991379905602012-02-03T10:39:59.579-05:002012-02-03T10:39:59.579-05:00I have been following your blog for a couple years...I have been following your blog for a couple years now, and I LOVE reading every post!! I have strong heart connections to Russia as well, and I understand many of the setbacks and frustrations you experience. Or maybe don't completely understand, but at least sympathize. :) Don't stop writing, because your story is important! You are inspiring! I can't wait to adopt from Russia one day too.Jordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00908702655060653378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-36462945694518222932012-02-03T10:08:38.516-05:002012-02-03T10:08:38.516-05:00I hear the dumbest things some days, like are all ...I hear the dumbest things some days, like are all of them adopted (we have 8) and I answer no, but they are all mine, or when I took my physically disabled kids to the mall and someone asked what group home I worked for? I told the guy the only work I do is being their Mom. He then went on to comment that he thought I was doing a good job with those kids, so I must be doing something right, although I am not about the reference to "those kids".Cyndihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03707402484656540757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-43780117971933261932012-02-03T10:02:14.455-05:002012-02-03T10:02:14.455-05:00Oh, Keri, I follow a lot of blogs, mostly adoption...Oh, Keri, I follow a lot of blogs, mostly adoption related, and yours is my favorite by far. Your perspective is unique on so many levels. I know I should comment more, but you can be sure I hang on to your every word.<br /><br />Our adoptive kids are so insecure about their newfound families. My 5 year old son, home 3 years, was asking me what fraternities are (we live in a college town). I explained that they were clubs that were like families, and when you leave your family and go to a big school, fraternities are like your family at school. I thought that was a pretty good explanation, but he said, "that is so sad." He doesn't want to leave his family- ever.<br /><br />Don't worry about writing serial masterpieces! This hodgepodge post is just great! I love to hear what is going on with you and yours.hoonewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00077170160087493334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-48706586300371886362012-02-03T08:20:47.813-05:002012-02-03T08:20:47.813-05:00Thanks MariaG. She is in a 3D artclass and is LOVI...Thanks MariaG. She is in a 3D artclass and is LOVING it. Doing scuptures out of everything from plaster to ceramics to wire!Kerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04886116438383281567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-47112989755617399742012-02-03T08:19:33.741-05:002012-02-03T08:19:33.741-05:00Aww, thanks Jo:) And when ever you do hit PM, you ...Aww, thanks Jo:) And when ever you do hit PM, you can ask me all about it, bc I'll be an expert soon. its just horrible....why didnt our mothers tell us about this?Kerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04886116438383281567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-7611420249791445962012-02-03T04:27:06.083-05:002012-02-03T04:27:06.083-05:00I'm always happy when you post! Sorry I don...I'm always happy when you post! Sorry I don't always comment. (((hugs))) about all the tough stuff. What kind of art is Nastia into?<br />MariaG (Canada)MariaGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09701753924118367672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29308661.post-67586675980601743922012-02-03T02:18:23.308-05:002012-02-03T02:18:23.308-05:00I have no advice and no experience being peri-meno...I have no advice and no experience being peri-menopausal.....but I just want you to know-I LOVE it when you post something. You are absolutely one of my favorite bloggers out of the probably 75+ blogs I have on my reader. :-)Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03194537563584309933noreply@blogger.com